Time, Money and Gifts: What Women Want Most in Relationships

What Women Want

In a 2010 poll, DUNIA magazine asked readers: What is a woman’s favorite gift? 40% voted Outings, 37% Flowers, 21% Money and only 2% chose Lingerie. Based on this survey, we are bringing you an undiluted look into what makes women feel special in relationships.

Time – Spending time with your woman is the best gift you can give her … as evidenced in the above DUNIA poll in which the most votes were cast for outings. In a recent research published in the Journal of Economic Psychology, 900 women (average age 38) were asked what they do each day and how they feel about it. According to the study, the top priority in a woman’s ideal routine would be ‘a little romance with their partner’. It was then concluded by the Dailymail.co.uk, that “Whether you are laying around doing nothing but having conversation or going out to dinner, a woman really appreciates that special attention just between the two of you.”

It is important to avoid bringing up stressful topics like unpaid bills, kid problems, exams, the job she doesn’t like, etc.

Flowers: Flowers are generally “a feel happy” trigger for the human brain. They are bright, they represent life and strongly signal that someone is thinking about us. Although most men tend to not understand why sending a woman flowers is so important, Mr Romantic knows this simple gesture evokes a response more powerful than such spoken words as, “I love you”, “I’m thinking of you”, “I’m sorry”.

John DeVore in an article entitled Why real men DO buy women flowers on CNN.com writes, “My dad [his parents had been married for over four decades] knew that buying a gift for that person who’ll laugh at your terrible jokes, kiss you with lips and breath, and hold your hand as a needle searches for your vein is just a way of saying “I’m thinking about you when you’re not here.” And that’s what flowers are, just a simple, easy way of letting someone know they were in your thoughts. That’s it. It’s not complicated.”

Money. Well … we’re sure you do agree with us that the ‘money – love discussion’ remains somewhat of a taboo. Why? “I think it is because money is so wrapped up in self-worth for a lot of people,” says Hilary Black, author of The Secret Currency of Love: The Unabashed Truth About Women, Money, and Relationships. “The tradition of not talking about money and not talking about your salary is something that has been long-standing over the past 40 years. I think that it’s private because people feel that they don’t want to reveal that personal part of themselves.”

Truth is we all need love and we all need money … the presence or lack of money in relationships DOES affect how relationships develop, mainly because lack of money equals stress and when human beings are stressed, they generally do not tend to make great companions. For women, money signifies stability, which women crave in relationships … on the other hand, it is not everything that makes a relationship work. Wanda of Atlanta’s radio-station V103 said on air a couple of months ago, that “money is a natural aphrodisiac for women!” So guys, listen up.

L Ring writes on Hufpages, “The majority of us do want rich men, myself included, but we want a man that is rich in integrity, humor and honesty instead of dollars. Don’t get me wrong – I mean, nobody wants to reside under the local interstate in a corrugated cardboard abode, eating beans from a can watching the kids suffer from tuberculosis. Most women aren’t likely to be attracted to a guy who lives in his grandmother’s basement eating Slim-Jims and playing video games all day. There needs to be some ambition, drive or motivation to succeed…”

Can you afford those little things that matter to your woman … are you able to send her flowers, buy her a romantic card, take her out to a romantic dinner every once in a while, pay for a manicure and pedicure … and all the little things that make her feel special? If a man is unable to do any of these because he can’t afford them, then …. uhmmm *throwing up hands*.

Gifts that make her feel sexy. Women like to feel wanted and desired. “When a woman feels sexy, she is more likely to want to be passionate and appreciate her man on so many different levels … These gifts are not about celebrating a birthday or even a special occasion, but to say “hey beautiful lady I love you and I think that you are sexy”,” writes Dawn Michael of Your Tango.

Sexy lingerie, nice jewelry, a trip to Paris, etc are a great way to make her feel special. However, note that only 2% of the women we surveyed voted for lingerie … could this be because the physical aspect of relationships is not always at the top of her list? We have a feeling that if a man makes her feel loved, cherished and protected, then she becomes all his. Happy = Happy.

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