8 Common Lies Men Tell in Relationships

While honesty and trust should be the centerpieces of every good relationship, it’s not uncommon for a few “white lies” to be tossed around between partners. Who can say they are “lie-free”? Most of us at some point for various reasons – maybe to protect our partners from hurtful truths, to get ourselves out of an embarrassing situation, or simply because of a deep seated truth-phobia – have not always been so forthcoming with the truth.


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A 2009 poll carried out on behalf of 20th Century Fox Home Entertainment showed that “the average man lies 42 times a week to their partners, boss, and work colleagues.” That equates to 6 lies a day as opposed to 3/day for women, the same poll showed. While 83% of the adults involved in the survey said they can always tell when their partners are lying, body language expert Richard Newman, says, “Body language is a great way of telling when someone is lying, however, most people can’t read the signals.”

Ladies take note of the following top 8 lies men tell and be on the look out the next time you hear them:

You don’t look fat. She is squeezing, huffing and puffing to fit into that party dress which seemingly is just a few sizes too small; she is concerned about how her behind looks in jeans and how much weight she might have gained after the baby came. “You don’t look fat” is a compassionate lie that men tell in order not to hurt her feelings — and to a large part, stay out of trouble. While most men understand how conscious women are of their weight and would rather lie to spare her the truth, they also protect themselves by flattering her so she doesn’t end up getting upset them for something they have no control over. However, women would prefer to be told the truth — I guess.

I’m on my way. What? It’s taking you forever! When a man is stalling and would rather not go somewhere, this is his way of putting you off. Men generally are not as expressive as women are and tend to make excuses rather than explain why they feel a certain way. He might tell you he’s stuck in traffic, a friend unexpected showed up just before he left, etc — knowing quite well he would rather not be bothered.

She’s just a friend. OK! A female friend who always seems a little bit too close and somewhat uncomfortable whenever she’s around you?! Women tend to “feel it” when she isn’t just a friend … and regardless of how much he insists, she knows the truth.

My batteries died. He’s been avoiding you, now he’s ignoring your calls and all of a sudden, his phone is off — and the next time you hear from him, he is apologizing and explaining how much of an embarrassment his phone is – it looses signals in the middle of calls, it’s batteries die unexpectedly and he is so frustrated he is going to replace it! Really?! The truth is, he just might be hoping you get the cue that the relationship batteries are running low as far as he is concerned — he isn’t feeling you.

I dumped her. Men mostly lie to protect their egos. So you notice he’s a still little bit jaded about his previous relationship and want to make sure you understand he is the one who ended it — although it’s obvious she’s pulled the plug. When a woman ends a relationship, the guy often is more hurt because he can’t believe she left him. Girl, be patient as he nurtures his “broken heart” or “bruised ego”?

I just had a few beers. His breath smells of beer, his eyes seem glazed, his speech sounds kinda blurry, but he won’t admit he is drunk. Maybe he just wants to show you he is still fully functional and in control . OK, but honey, I’m driving. Men generally don’t like to be perceived as being irresponsible, hence is lie.

I love you. Hmmm, really? You’re seeing other women, changing stories, disappearing for days, ignoring my calls — telling your buddies she won’t leave you alone, yet you love her? Men generally would say anything just to get what they want from a woman, “I love you” being the 3 words most likely to melt her heart. So if he doesn’t want to be seen with you during the day, won’t take you home to meet his folks, minimizes the time he let’s you spend in his living quarters, but always shows up in your apartment at night, chances are — you just might be a booty call. Beware, ladies.

I am leaving her for you. So he’s been married for several years; he’s telling you how unhappy he is in his marriage, how unattractive his wife has become after they had kids, how he can’t stand her nagging, — and he’s going to leave her for you — it’s been a few years and that line hasn’t changed. What are you thinking? You are spending Valentine’s day, Thanksgiving, Christmas alone while he is with his family and takes them on vacations, shows off pictures of his wife and kids to his friends and talks about how much he adores them and what his family means to him … yet you believe someday he is going to come to his senses and marry you? Girl, he is using you for what he can get.

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